The Way You See Yourself

We spend way too much time worrying about what others think of us; whether people are judging our parenting styles or whispering about the way we look, whether we said something that sounded stupid or wondering if we made a fool of ourselves. We don’t realize that the only thing that actually matters is what WE think of ourselves. Why are we so embarrassed or ashamed to be who we truly are without fear of judgement?

Why are we so afraid to be different or to stand out?

We live in a time where we are exposed to so many criteria and labels of what a woman is supposed to be and how she is supposed to look. With Instagram models and airbrushed celebrities in our faces every day on tv and social media, we build the belief system that we need to fit into an unrealistic category of what womanhood looks like.

Setting such impossible standards for ourselves makes us feel that we are less than, that we are unworthy, that we are failures. But what we forget to recognize is that nothing is ever portrayed online the way it exists in reality. Where success is shown – the path to get there is not. Where beauty and fitness are highlighted, the editing and enhancements are overlooked. The funny thing is – all of those standards that we think the world is putting on us, are actually standards that WE are putting on ourselves.

What things do you say to yourself? Do you find that you compare yourself to other women? It is easy to see our flaws, because guess what? WE ALL HAVE THEM.

It is only when we start to change the way we think about ourselves, and pay attention to when we are being unrealistic with our judgments and standards, that we will begin to see ourselves differently.
Instead of putting yourself down – lift yourself up.
Instead of making yourself wrong – focus on the lesson learned.
Instead of critiquing your image – find things that you DO like about yourself.
Mindset is everything. It is a choice to waste energy worrying about what others think of you. The only person living your life is YOU – therefore the only persons opinion that matters is your own. If there is something about yourself you are not happy with, you have the choice to change it or grow from it. If you cannot change it, then you can make a choice to embrace it or change the way you THINK about it.

At the end of the day, you have a choice to feed the negative thoughts or produce positive ones. It’s like choosing a flavour of ice cream – chocolate or vanilla? Just choose.

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"If you don't value or take care of yourself,
how can you expect others to treat you any better?"

Both coming from backgrounds of domestic violence and various forms of abuse, we connected on a very deep level. We both experienced some very traumatic events, and after numerous breaking points and near-death experiences, we finally had enough.